That's a tough call. Its hard to know what is illness and what is self imposed like you said. When we sign up to get married we're supposed to be there for better or worse and that includes illnesses and all of their manifestations. I only say that because if he does decide to go that route, he'd better be prepared not to look back or he's gonna have a lot of guilt for a long time.

As far as financial, I don't know how Ms does their stuff. In Oklahoma, we're a no-fault state and you basically split what you have 50-50 and the child support and any possible alimony is based on a formula of what each person contributed to the total income in the household. If she hasn't been working, then he'll likely have to pay a pretty large part of the child support the court decides the kids need.

Divorce is costly for everyone. I don't recommend it. But if it's gotta be done, then its worth the price you pay.

BKB